It’s quite common for married couples to share a home with other family members.
In this case, a woman and her husband live with his sibling, and unfortunately, a few issues arose when his sibling let a friend go into their bedroom without their permission.
So they decided to put a lock on their door, and his sibling was offended.
Who’s in the wrong?
Let’s analyze the situation.
My husband and I live with his sibling, “G,” in an apartment that’s paid for by his family.
G frequently brings friends over, and one of them, “L,” is a frequent guest who practically lives with us at this point.
I tend to avoid the common areas because I get anxious and uncomfortable around so many people, but I don’t really mind keeping to myself.
Introverts are usually more reclusive and tuned into their environment.
I have a vanity room where I keep my clothes and jewelry, and I installed a small camera there for peace of mind, as no one locks the apartment door, day or night, and I wanted to protect my valuables.
Later, I decided to put a lock on the vanity room door as an extra security measure.
Which is her right to do, but not everyone would agree…
Recently, while my husband and I weren’t home, G allowed their friend L to enter our personal space without permission, supposedly to charge a device.
This was especially unsettling because my husband and I have private, personal items in our bedroom, and it felt like a serious invasion of our privacy.
I feel that G was also at fault here for allowing a frequent guest to enter such a personal space, especially since it’s our private room as a couple.
They felt that their privacy was violated, so they acted accordingly.
After that incident, my husband and I decided to put a lock on our bedroom door for additional privacy.
I even explained to L beforehand that it was for privacy and safety, given the constant traffic in our apartment.
Everything seemed fine until G texted my husband, angrily accusing us of being “paranoid” and saying locks and cameras aren’t necessary because they were “raised with trust” as a family.
Imagine telling someone they can’t lock their own bedroom.
Since then, G has been distant, and I’ve been avoiding G and L, as I feel like they’re both upset with me.
I tried to reconcile with G, but they were dismissive and rude, leaving me feeling like I was back in school dealing with bullies.
It’s especially hurtful because I had opened up to both G and L about some personal struggles, thinking they would understand why I’d want some extra privacy.
Now, I feel like I’m an outsider in my own home.
This is the worst feeling.
AITA for putting a lock on my bedroom door and wanting more privacy?
It’s suspicious that they were this upset over a couple wanting privacy in their own home.
Let’s what Redditors are saying about this situation.
A reader shares their thoughts.
This person mentions a few important points to consider.
Someone shares a few wise words.
A commenter keeps it to the point.
This person thinks they should stand up for themselves.
Nobody should feel bad about wanting to feel safe in their own home.
Locks are probably good for everyone in this situation.
If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.
