For new moms, having someone help look after the baby can be a huge privilege, so when her mom offered to babysit her 3-month-old, this woman agreed. She was so exhausted!
However, her mom didn’t follow their agreed upon plan and made decisions on her own. When she found out about this, she decided she didn’t want her to babysit again.
What do you think about her decision? Read the full story for all the details.
I’m a first time mom (30F).
My husband works away from home for a few months, so I’m on my own for now.
Our baby is 3 months old.
This new mom needed to catch up on her sleep.
Lately, the lack of sleep has been catching up with me, and I told my mom I’m not feeling well to say the least.
And I should probably get a couple of hours of extra sleep.
I have never asked for any help from anyone until now, so it was hard for me to finally cave in and admit I need it now.
It’s also hard to even think about leaving my baby with someone else.
When her mom offered to look after her baby, she agreed.
So, when my mom offered to sit with him for a few hours, I agreed.
But I told her it would be best if he stayed at home where I was sleeping, so I don’t feel anxious and can actually fall asleep.
She agreed.
She started panicking when she couldn’t find them.
They went outside to have a walk (we have a pretty big property).
When I woke up two hours later, it was already getting dark, and no one was inside the house.
So, I went outside looking for them as I also saw the stroller wasn’t inside.
After 5 minutes of looking for them and realizing they’re not there, my eyes welled up and I started panicking.
I ran after my phone and called my mom (thankfully she picked up).
She found out that her parents brought the baby to their place.
Apparently, she decided it was best for me if they went to her house, so they don’t make noise and disturb my sleep.
My dad picked them up, with no car seat might I add.
Although it’s only a 5-minute drive, but still, anything can happen.
My mom actually left a note, but she put it in a really crappy place, so I didn’t see it and it didn’t save me from panicking.
Although she wasn’t mad, they had a bit of a misunderstanding.
When I went to them, I wasn’t angry.
I appreciated the help and the thought behind their actions, but I also explained why it wasn’t the best solution for me or my son.
They didn’t agree, and still think they were right to do what they did and they know what I need best.
They think she’s just being overly dramatic and hormonal.
So because of this, I am struggling even more to ask for help and leave my baby with them.
It will take time for me to stop stressing and overthinking and fully trust them again.
I explained this to them as I can’t be sure what else they could be doing opposite of what we previously agreed to.
And they feel very hurt saying I’m hormonal and don’t understand what’s best for me.
Now, she’s wondering if it’s right not to ask them for help again.
I agree on being hormonal, but that doesn’t undo what they did.
Actually I expected them to be a bit more understanding of my anxieties, but it is what it is.
So AITAH for not asking for and refusing help with their grandchild anymore for some time?
Am I overreacting?
Wow! I’d panic too if I woke up and couldn’t find my baby.
Let’s find out what others have to say about this on Reddit…
This user is mad at her parents, too.
This person gives a valid point…
While this person shares their personal experience.
It’s way over the top, says this person.
Everyone is siding with the mom.
Her parents don’t sound like responsible babysitters.
If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.
