Sharing and dividing properties when you’re not yet married can be really complicated.
This is why this woman thought about letting her boyfriend sign a cohabitation agreement for the house she’s planning to buy.
When he found out about this, he got mad, and now there’s a lot of drama.
Read the full story below for all the details.
I (33F) have a good corporate job.
I bought a townhouse 7 years ago when I was single.
I then met my partner (36M) 3 years ago.
Here’s the division of labor inside the house.
He moved into my townhouse.
He pays occasional (well below market value) rent, and buys occasional groceries.
I cover well over 80+% of the expenses.
My partner is a PhD student.
She is fine with their current arrangement.
When he moved in with me, he cut a LOT of expenses.
He no longer had to work his crappy part time job to pay his rent in a shared apartment with 4 other guys.
My partner does more housework than I (60/40 split), and he cooks more often (65/35).
I do not mind this arrangement.
I care about him deeply, and we generally get along well and have a caring relationship.
Now, she’s planning to buy a new house and wants her BF to sign an agreement.
The issue is this I am selling my townhouse and buying a house.
I am fronting the entire cost, and am the only one on the mortgage.
Before we move in, I asked my partner to sign a cohabitation agreement (basically a prenup for non-married people).
I gave him the agreement, which basically said I keep the house and doesn’t owe spousal support in the event of a breakup.
Now, they’re in a huge argument.
We got in a big fight because my partner wants to have equity in the house because of the housework he does.
I think this is unfair.
I know enough divorced couples to know you should always plan for the future.
I’m worried about having to sell the house if we break up in order to pay him out.
Am I crazy? AITA if I stick to my guns?
It definitely sounds like she’s doing a good job thinking this through.
Let’s find out what others have to say about this on Reddit…
This user shares an honest opinion.
Here’s another similar comment.
Everything should stay in your name, says this person.
Short but straightforward.
Finally, this user says it’s a huge red flag!
In what world does a little housework equate to half of the equity of a property?
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