The balance between supporting loved ones and securing your personal financial goals can often feel like a tug-of-war.
This woman has always been expected to support her family, but all of the expenses are beginning to add up fast. She’s left wondering if her desire for financial stability is selfish or necessary.
Read on for the full story.
I (25F) own a 3-bed/2-bath home, and my mortgage and living expenses total $3500 monthly.
My mom and little sister live with me, and my mom contributes $900, leaving me to cover $2600.
Securing a good financial future is a big priority for this young homeowner, so one day, she suggests a change that gets her family up in arms.
I proposed that we move to a more affordable apartment (~$1600), where I’d still help cover the rent, so I can rent out my home and reduce my long-term financial strain. My goal is to prepare for future expenses when I start my own family.
My older sister and brother-in-law believe I’m abandoning my responsibilities and say I’ll regret it. Even my therapist’s reaction makes me question if I’m being selfish.
But she’s starting to feel the weight of her family’s expectations on her shoulders – and her wallet.
I feel like my family expects me to support them indefinitely, and I resent that.
While I can afford it now, I’m worried about sustaining it long-term.
Now everyone’s negative reactions have her doubting herself.
I wonder if I’m being inconsiderate for wanting to prioritize my financial future over continuing to provide for my mom and sister in my home.
AITA?
It’s never easy to be pulled in a million different directions – especially when your finances are at stake.
What did Reddit think?
At the end of the day, the young woman is being responsible with her resources, even if it ruffles her family’s feathers.
If her other siblings have such an opinion about how she’s handling this situation, maybe they could try sticking their necks out for a change.
This user offers a word of warning regarding some considerations the young homeowner may not have accounted for yet.
This redditor believes wholeheartedly the whole weight of the family’s burdens shouldn’t rest solely on this young woman’s shoulders – no matter how responsible she is.
Sometimes putting yourself first is the only way to avoid falling behind.
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